The Weight of Becoming: Trusting Yourself While Building Your Dreams

The Weight of Becoming

There’s a heaviness that comes with building something you can’t yet see.Not the kind of weight that breaks you—but the kind that stretches you into someone new.

When you’re walking in alignment with a vision that hasn’t yet fully revealed itself, you start to realize that growth and discomfort are sisters. One doesn’t exist without the other.

Lately, I’ve been carrying that weight in ways that are both humbling and beautiful. Between booking more group sound baths, speaking on panels, and building out The RESET Membership, there are moments when the excitement of expansion collides with the quiet whisper of, “Can I really handle all of this?”

And in those moments, I’m reminded that building your dreams isn’t just about external success. It’s an internal initiation. The invitation to trust yourself more deeply, to hold your vision close even when the path feels uncertain, and to keep walking even when you can’t yet see where the road leads.

The Myth of Readiness

There’s this idea we grow up believing. The idea that one day, you’ll just know you’re ready. That the signs will line up, the confidence will click, and you’ll step boldly into your purpose with certainty and ease.

But readiness isn’t a moment. It’s a mindset. It’s something that forms through motion, not before it. In the words of Lauren Hill, "Ready or not here I come."

I used to wait for the “perfect time” to launch something. I told myself I needed one more degree, one more certification, one more system, one more ounce of confidence. But every major shift in my life has reminded me: clarity and momentum are born from action.

When I first started Soulcial Therapy, I had no idea it would grow into what it is now. I simply knew I wanted to create a sacred space for women to reconnect with themselves. I didn’t wait for a sign. I took one small step, then another, and another.

Readiness, I’ve learned, is revealed through showing up. You find your flow in the process, not before it begins.

The Pressure of the Dream

The moment you say yes to your dream, a new kind of pressure appears. Not the kind that demands perfection, but the kind that asks you to stretch your capacity. The pressure to hold your faith in one hand and responsibility in the other.

There are days when I feel the full weight of it all: clients depending on me, events to plan, marketing to manage, ideas I need to execute. The very thing I once prayed for now requires a version of me I’m still growing into.

But that’s what dreams do, they pull you forward into your next evolution.

When you’re building something rooted in purpose, it will often feel like you’re walking between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. That tension is sacred. It’s the space where transformation is quietly happening beneath the surface.

So, instead of resisting it, I’ve learned to honor it. To breathe through the overwhelm and remind myself that the pressure I feel is proof of growth.

Failing Forward, Fast, and Free

For a long time, I was afraid to fail. I thought mistakes meant I wasn’t capable or that I wasn’t called to do this work. But now, I understand that failure is simply feedback. It is simply how we refine our rhythm.

In business and in life, the goal isn’t to avoid failure. In the words of my coach Anna Cable "it’s to fail forward, fast, for free as often as possible." That quote changed my life!

Fail forward: because every stumble carries a lesson that moves you closer to alignment.

Fail fast: because the quicker you learn, the faster you can pivot.

Fail free: because your worth was never tied to the outcome in the first place.

Every event that didn’t sell out, every workshop that stretched me too thin, every moment of doubt has taught me something I could only learn by doing.

And that’s the beauty of it.

Each experience adds another layer to who I’m becoming.

The dream evolves as I do.

The Dialogue Within

When the noise of self-doubt creeps in, I return to the most important conversation I can have. The conversation that I have with myself.

I speak to the version of me who started Soulcial Therapy at her kitchen table with a journal, a laptop, and a dream. The version who was working late at night after putting Ayden to bed, piecing together new ideas, creating content for my social media clients, building out my dreams between bedtime stories and client deadlines.

I tell her,

“You’ve done hard things before. You’ll do them again. You’re not behind you’re simply becoming.”

We underestimate how powerful our self-talk is. The words we speak to ourselves either build the bridge toward our destiny or burn it down before we ever cross it.

So, when the pressure of expansion hits, I pause and breathe. I speak affirmations aloud:

“I trust myself. I am capable of figuring it out as I go. I am safe to grow. I am becoming everything I once prayed for.”

That internal dialogue keeps me anchored when the external world feels like too much.

Moving Before You’re Ready

This season of my life is all about moving before I feel 100% ready.

Launching The RESET Membership is a perfect example. I could have spent months perfecting every detail—the structure, the tiers, the marketing—but at some point, I finally realized that the idea of perfection is a delay tactic.

Sometimes you have to walk before you see the full destination.

When I planned my first group sound bath, I was nervous. I wasn’t sure how it would flow, how many people would come, or if they would connect with the experience the way I hoped. But each session reaffirmed that when you show up in alignment, everything else falls into place.

We often think success comes from having it all figured out, but it’s actually built through consistent faith in motion.

You learn by doing. You grow by showing up. You evolve by saying yes, even when your voice trembles.

Trusting Yourself and Your Skills

There’s a quiet confidence that forms when you start trusting your own skills. Not because you’ve mastered everything, but because you know that no matter what comes up you’ll handle it.

That’s what trust looks like in practice. It’s not about knowing every answer. It’s about believing you have what it takes to find them.

Trust yourself to make good decisions. Trust your timing. Trust your preparation, your prayers, and your persistence.

Every skill you’ve developed, whether in motherhood, business, or personal growth, was preparing you for this moment. The more you lean into that truth, the lighter the weight of your dream becomes.

Becoming the Woman You’re Meant to Be

Becoming isn’t glamorous. It’s messy, emotional, and filled with moments where you question if you’re really cut out for what you’ve asked for. But it’s also deeply sacred.

Each version of yourself deserves to be celebrated.

The one who started.

The one who stumbled.

The one who keeps getting back up.

Because the truth is, you’re not waiting to become her. You already are her, you’re just catching up to your own reflection.

Every brave “yes” is evidence that you’re aligning with your higher self. Every risk you take is a declaration that you trust your own becoming.

If You’re Carrying the Weight Too

If you’re reading this and feeling the heaviness of building your dream know this: you are not alone. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to have the perfect plan. You just need to trust the next right step and take it with intention.

Here’s what I’ve learned along the way:

• You are allowed to be both building and becoming. The process will shape you in ways you can’t yet imagine.

• You don’t need permission to evolve. Growth doesn’t require validation, it requires courage.

• You can rest and rise at the same time. Stillness doesn’t mean stagnation. It’s part of your strategy.

• Every delay is divine. The timing is always right, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

The weight of becoming isn’t meant to crush you. It’s meant to mold you. It’s a sacred initiation into the life you’re meant to live.

When it feels heavy, remember that diamonds form under pressure, and so do dreamers.

You’re not late. You’re not lost. You’re simply in the process of unfolding into the version of yourself that your dream requires.

So, keep walking. Keep trusting. Keep moving before you feel ready.

Because the truth is...you already are.

Light & Love Always,

Mi’Lisa Idora

Founder, Soulcial Therapy 💛

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